MB lived in an orphanage for two years before he joined our family. For two YEARS, he was without a parent or a sibling or really anybody who thought him most precious. But in those two years he did have someone. He had his best friend, the closest thing to a brother he had known in years. Let's call him Abe. We had the privilege of meeting Abe on several occasions and everyone in the place told us that MB and Abe had always been best friends. Unfortunately, these two boys probably saw more kids come and go from this place than any other boys. My heart breaks for every. single. farewell. ceremony these boys had to sit through.
Of late, I've been on a rather fruitless search to find Abe's family in hopes of reuniting the boys. Abe is the only person MB talks about missing. When he plays with his friends at school, he often comes home and talks about missing Abe. The nannies told us Abe had a family. Abe told us he had a family. This morning Mr. T predicted a heartbreaking outcome and launched a preemptive warning "honey, we can't adopt him." "I know, I know" was my very obvious, very logical response. Then I got the call from the case worker. She knew exactly who I was looking for. And Abe ... does not have a family. For over two years he has waited. He's a healthy, smart as a whip little boy. He has a great relationship with the nannies and other children, is "an obedient child and assists the nannies with the younger children." He likes to jump rope, color, play with play dough and learn new things. His only special need? He merely had the misfortune of turning 8 years-old.
Did you read Kristen's article from last week about mommy wars? (if not, you should). Let's quit beating each other up about something as senseless as boobies and breast milk and lock our mommy and daddy arms together and fight for the motherless child. Let's fight for boys like Abe. Might you be his new mom or dad? Might you know someone who could? I would love to tell you more about Abe if you might be interested. He's on the waiting child list of an ethical and well respected agency. I would especially love it if you lived in the Midwest and these boys could keep in regular contact, but I won't make that a prerequisite to talking to you ;-)
When we adopted Taz, there was a little boy in the orphanage who stole my heart and took my breath away. His name is Tomas and he now has the most gorgeous family on the planet. Abe reminded me so much of Tomas. Abe deserves a family, beautiful or not, perfect or flawed. He does not deserve to wait any longer. Will you pretty pretty please help me advocate for Abe?
Speaking of advocating ... you should go check out the silent auction my friend Megan is holding for Sweet Naomi. There are some pretty sweet items on there, lots of Africa stuff, books, bags, art and more. Because all money goes to such a great cause, I won't even be mad if you bid against me on some items
p.s. I don't think I can show you Abe's picture, but here's his best friend the last day they were together. Now picture a little boy (almost as darling) a few inches taller wearing a similar traditional costume for his very own farewell ceremony. Abe deserves his own farewell ceremony ...
(and yes, I know this belongs in the category of Change The World Wednesday, but I could not wait another day. Lord please, may someone say yes to sweet Abe)